Hello no-one
I recently enjoyed a lovely evening meal with friends and it made me think about the concept of loneliness and being alone.
There have been recent reports in the media regarding the ever-growing ageing population and their isolation within their community, in a world that communicates in seconds, it seems ironic that we are becoming more and more isolated within ourselves. I don’t think it is just the elderly, I think they are able to articulate it better as they have grown up in a community where communication was face to face, or in a letter or awaiting the dreaded telegram.
I remember as a child I had letter writing as a lesson, it is a great skill to write a good letter, but with a click I can go on-line and find thousands of templates, a letter for all occasions so now I try to write my letters by hand. I think I need to pay homage to the people who thought that I should be taught that skill and so I still try.
Maybe the generations to follow will not have the burden of feeling lonely or isolated, they may have less and less understanding about the concept of loneliness and what that means, they may grow up continually plugging into machines and blocking out the rest of the world, where you are able to share an experience with the world with one upload. I do not know how the concept of loneliness will be expressed in the future, what shape it will be and what it will do to us.
Will we have to employ robots to be able to communicate with rather than the need for another human being, a robot specifically designed and programmed to like and enjoy everything we like, who could have our lives upload to their hard drive so they could recall the experiences and memories we had as a child as if they had been there, will we never experience loneliness again? is that a good thing?
The reality is that we evolved as a social animal, this does not mean that we have to live in each others pockets but it does mean that we value, even if its only for survival, on other humans to survive. We have adapted to be more distant from our tribes but we are still in need of them, or are we?
The media is full of examples of people who have designed software and hardware that interact with us and which we find difficult to distinguish between machine and human, we are now designing machines that pass the Turing test.
In the film, bicentennial man (poor film, better book) the premise is a robot who wants to be accepted as a human, but I think we seem to be heading the other way, we would rather be robotic than, in the words of Hulk, be a ‘puny’ human.
We are a species who relish in changing our appearances and wanting to look and be different, we already incorporate artificial limbs, hips and hearts, we always want to improve everything, even tattoos have evolved, there are now designs that can only be seen in the dark or under black light, we like to change the way we look and we’re not good at thinking about the consequences of that.
A survey suggested 80% of individuals would have sex with a robot, it would be interesting to see if those individuals would want a full-blown relationship or whether they will replace human trafficking to fulfill our less desirable needs with metal ones.
You are never alone with a phone, we see this small plastic device as a conduit to a world we cannot afford to travel round, to communities we cannot hope to join and information that makes us feel up to date and interesting. Human attachments are now high maintenance, they require time and patience, manners, acceptance, the ability to listen and to comfort, would we give those up for the chance of spending time with machines that would only address our hedonistic wants until we realise that despite all our needs and wants fulfilled, we are still lonely.
I am not against machines, I am on a laptop, this is a blog, I am next to a mobile and a memory stick will a draft of my book on it, lose all of this and what am I left with? is that thought frightening or liberating, which one is healthier?
We are asked to believe that all our social networks and gadgets make us a more communicative and social animal but I am not so sure, bullying, isolation, suicides and detachment all seem to be prevalent, we are less empathic and our children are unable to translate facial expressions as they once did. We are deleting the skills we have to be with each other.
I am hoping that we start to see machines as nothing more than.. well….machines. That we begin to open our doors to gathering together,enjoying each others company, listen to stories and being touched by another’s touch. I hope we do not substitute human connection for the sake of a machine that can do anything we want it to. I want to continue to get frustrated at people who do stupid things (in my mind) who make extraordinary art, music, dance and be moved by the human voice. I want to bump into people, share a joke and laugh.
I need to be more sociable, I need to push myself out into the community I live in more and join others in their attempt to connect to others without feeling like it’s an odd thing to do, that meeting other people is seen as a necessary evil because you’re not social adept.
That’s the irony, we think we’re social when we are sitting in a room typing away on a laptop onto our social networks that tell us instantly if were liked or not.
There needs to be a balance, I want to be able to type and I want to be able to see and I just hope that I will continue to be able to do that.
I get lonely, and when I experience that, it’s an opportunity to do something about it, if I can rather than switch on a machine.
MW